One-to-One, Couples and Relationship Counselling in Crouch End and Central Peterborough
On 23rd March the Government issued compulsory rules on staying at home and social distancing for the general population, and self-isolation for some. Following these rules, all counselling sessions are by phone or video call, until the rules are lifted. Telephone and video counselling, while slightly different from face-to-face counselling, can be effective and reassuring as we live through these difficult times. I am part of the Key Workers Counselling programme, run by the National Counselling Society. Reduced fees apply, please contact me for details.
I'm Thalia Martin, a skilled counsellor with 25 years experience in mental health. I have a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, and have completed the Open Dialogue Foundation Training. I'm an accredited member of the National Counselling Society, and follow their code of ethics. I work with individuals and couples experiencing problems in the following areas, among others:
My approach is to treat you as a unique individual, with your own experience, understanding and potential to grow. If you've never seen a counsellor before and don't know what to expect, it can seem like a big step to take. I'll help you to feel at ease, and explain how counselling works.
As well as one-to-one counselling, I provide couples and relationship counselling in Crouch End and Peterborough. Coming to counselling as a couple gives both of you some valuable time to reflect on your relationship, with an independent person present. This can lead to a greater understanding of the issues that bring you to counselling, and your relationship as a whole. This approach can also be applied between friends, and family members.
I provide a confidential, supportive environment, where you can explore your thoughts and feelings without being judged. Whether you are looking for open-ended or short-term counselling, my aim as a counsellor is to help you to live your life in a more fulfilling way. Together we can work on finding a way forward for you.
Short-term counselling can help you to deal with a specific problem, and can be very useful. Open-ended counselling is an opportunity to look at things in more depth, to explore underlying themes in your life that are affecting long-term or recurring issues.
My fees in Crouch End are £60 for individuals, per 50 minute session. For couples counselling, I offer longer sessions of 1 hour and 20 minutes, which are £80. This gives more time for both of you to talk, making a change of perspective more likely.
My fees in Peterborough are £40 for individuals, per 50 minute session. For couples counselling, longer sessions of 1 hour and 20 minutes are £60.
You can find out more about my approach, qualifications, training, experience, couples work, and fees on the other pages of my website. If you think I could help you, please contact me by phone or email to find out more. If you decide to arrange an introductory session, we can talk about what you'd like to get from counselling, and how we could work together.
In Crouch End, I see clients at the Haelan Centre, 41 The Broadway, London N8 8DT – click here to see it on the map.
My counselling practice in central Peterborough is based at 16 Crawthorne Road, Peterborough PE1 4AB – convenient for The Deepings, Stamford, Whittlesey, and March also – click here to see where it is. There is metered parking outside the building.
Thanks to Paul Thoma for his photographs.
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